DORTMUND, Germany -- Migrants looking for love in Germany are in luck: Horst Wenzel, dubbed Germany’s “Mr.
Flirt,” has been volunteering his services to teach young Muslim men who grew up in vastly different cultures how to approach women in Germany.
”But across Germany, hostility to asylum seekers has been on the rise since groups of foreigners -- mostly young men from northern Africa -- robbed and groped dozens of women on New Year’s Eve in Cologne.
Most of the hostility targets young male asylum-seekers from Syria, Iraq and Afghanistan, who make up the majority of the migrants reshaping Germany.
As a single Muslim woman in my early 20s, I’ve yet to go on a date with a Muslim man.
This stems from how most traditional Muslim parents, like mine, believe in a restricted code of conduct between men and women. Does he leave his clothes strewn about or are his socks separated by color?
This was a profile on Minder, a Muslim dating app that mimics Tinder but is aimed at helping Western Muslims find a spouse.
“There are a lot of differences, not only the culture and religion - we just don’t have this total freedom at home.”Still, he said, “I’d love to marry a German woman and live with her.Even though I was born and raised in this religion, that was my own awakening as to why this was a way of life for me [and I decided to commit myself to this faith].”What does that mean to you and your faith? I had to go through a process of that, too, because you’re immediately recognized as a Muslim if you’ve got your hijab on. “For the personality type that I have, the hijab was very simple way for me to maintain a balance and a center and a sort of discipline that I needed and that I don’t seem to find in a lot of other ways in this world. But the hijab is as simple as putting a T-shirt on.”“If you’re a conservative Muslim, your family gets you some men, you pick and choose what you want, and it’s done in a really quick turnaround period. And I don’t knock any sort of trajectory or pathway to finding love or getting married or having a marriage. It blows my mind to know that you can try this conservative approach, or this non-conservative approach…”But there’s no full-on “dating” that goes on in your community?It’s not the same for men, now that beards are in style. And by ‘quick turnaround period,’ I mean that some people can be married in, like, a month. Because you have people who do this arranged marriage situation, and the marriages work and sometimes they don’t. “My parents know that I talk to men with the purpose of dating for marriage. Sounds like my parents.“I live in Chicago, and I live in this great neighborhood, so I meet people all the time.She could help me with the language, and she knows the place and the laws much better than I do.”Some German women were receptive to the idea.Jasmin Olbrich, having a quick lunch of French fries at a food truck outside the educational center, said she liked the Middle Eastern looks and complained that German men “drink too much beer, watch way too much soccer and are just so white!